The Gift Your Wife Really Wants for Christmas {Part Two}

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Last week we began our discussion on what your wife truly wants for Christmas. You might feel the need to get a lot of thoughtful presents to put under the tree, but her real desire is for her husband to be the spiritual leader of her home, 365 days a year.


We began looking at the life of Joseph as he provides a great example of spiritual leadership by spending time seeking God’s will in his life, instantly and fully obeying God, and not worrying about the earthly costs of wholeheartedly obeying the Lord. Today we are going to look at the first step of spending time with God and seeking His will for your life by looking at Matthew 1:18-21:


“Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit.  And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly.  But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” Matthew 1:18-21


Imagine that you are engaged to the love of your life and she goes off to visit a relative for a few months. When she returns from her trip, you discover your fiancée is pregnant. Now, you know that you have never had sex with her since you are wanting to honor God by waiting until you are married. You, of course, would be crushed and disappointed by this news. But then to add insult to injury, your fiancée comes up to you and tells you that she has not slept with anyone, but has miraculously become pregnant as a virgin. All you hear is that your fiancée has obviously cheated on you, and now she is flat out lying to you as she proclaims her innocence.


This is the exact situation that Joseph finds himself in 2000 years ago. The Bible describes Joseph as a just and righteous man, so he decides to divorce Mary in a quiet way to best honor and protect her from the outrage and ridicule of others.


What we see in this story is that Joseph is a man who seeks the Lord in his life, and as he is pondering what to do, God sends an angel to give him a specific word about this situation. The angel tells Joseph that Mary is not lying, that God has miraculously caused Mary to be pregnant, and that she will give birth to the long-awaited Messiah. This is the Messiah who will provide the way for our sins to be forgiven and for us to enter a personal relationship with God. The angel tells Joseph to go ahead and to marry Mary. And even further, the angel says this is exactly who God wants Joseph to marry.


It is here that we see Joseph rise as a leader, but he could only do so because he spent consistent time alone with God.


Now, we must understand that God sent an angel to speak to Joseph in a dream, but today God speaks to us through the Bible and through prayer.  Men, we too must spend consistent time with God if we are going to lead our families into what God desires. Set a time each day where you will get alone with God, spending time reading the Bible, praying, and quietly listening to what God’s will is for your life.


How do you practically do this in your day-to-day life?


The first step is to schedule a time. You complete what you put on the schedule, so select a time in your day where you can get alone with God. Now, please do not start off with an hour time of prayer, but begin by scheduling just ten minutes to spend with the Lord. Once you have a time set, then select a location where you can get alone and not be disturbed. Maybe you go into your office, or your favorite chair in the living room, or you might have to go down in the basement to find some alone time. But it is important to have a place you go back to each morning to spend time with God.


Once you have your time and your place, now the life change begins as you get to spend time with God. Begin by opening in about two minutes of prayer, asking God to speak to you and lead you during this time. Then open your Bible and simply read one chapter of scripture. If you do not know what book to start with then select the gospel of John. After you read your chapter, then spend the rest of your time in prayer talking to God about what you read and sharing whatever is on your heart to the Lord. You can talk to God about absolutely anything, so bring your praises, concerns and dreams to Him.


This week let me challenge you to have a time alone with God at least four out of the seven days. You will never regret spending time with the Lord. And she will never regret that you are, either.

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